Happy Monday, mommas! Mommy Tell All Monday is our weekly meet-up to discuss all things *motherhood.* Grab a cup of tea, infused water, soda, coffee…and kick back for another awesome read from our Parenting/Motherhood contributor, Sara of A Mom’s Battle of the Selfie. Today she’s discussing the importance of being a daydreamer…
Live in the moment.
Be present with your kids.
Live each day to the fullest.
These are all common sayings that I’ve heard. They are themes that fit well into our present time with the amount of social media at our fingertips. I believe that statements like these could apply to anyone, and maybe parents need to hear them as reminders often.
I know that some moms keep their phones in a different room, or even on silent to not distract from time with their kids. For myself, my distraction is not my phone but my mind.
I’m a daydreamer.
I let my mind wander to places often. When I’m working out I put fun dance and hip hop music in my ears and I take my mind back to my college days dancing with best friends. There was one year that we went out at least once a weekend and would dance our hearts out to the music, I think about those moments when I’m running and it makes time fly. I hate running, so anything that helps to make it go faster is worth it.
I daydream about the day that I met my husband. The times that we had together as friends, the hours we spent talking and laughing. I think back to the first time he admitted his feelings to me and even the first time we kissed. My mind wanders to the night he proposed, the butterflies that I always felt in my stomach when I was around him. Daydreaming about him reminds me of where we started and then it makes me smile to know how far we’ve come.
Sometimes I daydream about what my life will be like when all of my kids are in school. Oh my goodness, the possibilities are endless as to what I could do! Am I volunteering in classrooms? Will I have extra time to meal plan and serve healthier choices to our family? Maybe I will start ironing our clothes again, no probably not enough time for that. There might be some time to reconnect myself spiritually, something that I can’t find much time for now.
On really long days I often daydream about any upcoming vacations. Our family headed to Disneyland and the sparkle that shines in my children’s eyes when we’re there. Or my best friend’s wedding weekend that will be like a mini getaway; something that I’ve been looking forward to for years. I also dream back to my time spent in India with a ministry that my family loves and supports. I think about the children there and I pray for them. That daydream quickly brings me back to how blessed I am in my current reality.
My absolute favorite thing to daydream about is decorating! I think about the next spot that I can move my couches to, or what old piece of furniture I would like to find to complete a specific room. If we ever had a chunk of money to renovate a part of our home I think about the changes I would make. Or I dream about the day that all of the large plastic toys are out of our backyard and the different things we could do with that space.
Clearly, I daydream all day long. My mind is not something that I can turn off or place in the other room. In some ways I think that it’s just as distracting as a phone, however I don’t think that it’s all that bad. Sometimes it makes me feel like I’m on the border of always looking to what’s next and not reflecting on the good in the present. But I also don’t think its bad to hope, have ideas or even dream a little about things to come. And in some ways, it’s neat to reminisce about events of the past; times that will forever be special and even molded me into the woman, wife and mother that I am today.
Let your mind wander. Whether your kids are next to you playing or in their room taking naps, go ahead and daydream a little. Dream about them, your spouse, your friends or the future. Maybe you’ll have some inspiration. Maybe you’ll feel blessed to think about your personal journey. Maybe some of your daydreams will turn into reality.
*All photos were taken by Michele Lundborg Photography, LLC